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So I have been on holiday (one of the reasons for not posting much), so I merely bring you a random observation, since whilst away Darcy thought it might be nice to try a new show. It was a French show called 'The Very Secret Service' and was on Netflix.

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In other news, I have enticed my two youngest to watch Buffy. We have watched 4 episodes so far and they like it very much. :)

ETA: Buffy's immortal line 'If the apocalypse comes, beep me!' is from Never Kill a Boy on the First Date. I pointed out how famous this line was.

Impish Girl: Beep me? What does that mean?
Me: She has a pager.
Impish Girl: What's a pager?

Lesson 1 in HOW TO FEEL OLD.

Mostly I've just been dumping them all in a draft in gmail named 'wimmin'. But I thought it was a shame that they should stay there, so here is the mother of all link posts. A lot about #MeToo and Aziz Ansari and... Just wimmin's stuff generally.

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ETA:

With one week left in our campaign, every pledge helps. We need to raise the whole $20,000 or everything we did raise is lost. Will you get out your credit card? Let's end #domesticviolence homicide → https://t.co/G40WPsMyNl pic.twitter.com/LlFI21JbZb

— Jeanne Geiger Ctr (@JeanneGeigerCtr) March 2, 2018

This is one of the most hilarious & accurate things I have ever seen. Pure, undiluted genius:

The 29 Stages Of A Twitterstorm In 2018

Also:

Massive nationwide Women’s March turnout shames Trump on inauguration anniversary

TIME Person of the Year: The Silence Breakers

(Sidebar: Is Taylor Swift a “Silence Breaker”? The case for and against her place on Time’s cover.)


Hillary Clinton meets Mary Beard: ‘I would love to have told Trump: “Back off, you creep”’ (DELIGHTFUL!)

MoJ scraps legal aid restrictions for victims of domestic violence

Why Men Aren’t Funny

John Oliver confronted Dustin Hoffman on sexual harassment allegations against him. Good.



House of Cards promotes Robin Wright to sole lead for its 6th and final season

And finally:

The Rock Test: A Hack for Men Who Don’t Want To Be Accused of Sexual Harassment
Are you a man confused on how to treat the women you work with? Do you feel like if you can’t say or do *anything* you don’t know what to say or do at all? Well stress no more! This life hack will have you treating women like people in no time.

So, 2016 was a nightmare, and 2017 continues to get progressively worse.

However.

Happened to be watching Dave, which was showing an episode of Mock the Week from 2012. Cue SEVEN straight white male comedians. With the jokes to match.

Some things are getting better.

I've been meaning to write *something* about the whole Harvey Weinstein thing. There are a hundred things I could link you to. However, the thing that I can't get out of my head is this bit of dialogue from 'The Initiative' (slightly edited):

Parker: [Laughs] oh, yeah. The word is stamina. I mean, definitely a bunny in the sack, but later on, well. You know the difference between a freshman girl and a toilet seat? A toilet seat doesn't follow you around after you use it.

Riley decks Parker who hits the floor.

Riley: (Walking between Forrest and Graham.) I can't believe that I did that.

Forrest: What the hell for?

Riley: He--he was just being so crude.

Forrest: Please. You've heard me say much grosser things than that.

Riley: I just didn't like hearing him (he pauses thoughtfully) talk about Buffy that way. I think I... Well, I guess I like her.

I have said before that I think Riley Finn was a metaphor for male privilege (straight, white male privilege specifically) and this is the perfect example.

Riley is a nice guy. Decent. Works hard. Goes to church. Serves his country. And it's possible we're meant to cheer him on for decking Parker. But. The line that stands out is Forrest's:

You've heard me say much grosser things than that.

The only thing different is that Riley happens to like Buffy. The whole of the cold open is a lengthy frat-boy-ish objectification of women. And Riley never speaks up.

I wish they'd done more with him. I can't even tell if the metaphor was deliberate, or if they just took the most basic template possible to create him, and the metaphor was built in.

However, it's useful. (Also see Xander of course.) Because in creating him, they essentially made Buffy date the Patriarchy. And the Patriarchy couldn't hack it and ran away.

But... they never really made the Patriarchy face its issues. Maybe they couldn't. Maybe that would have been a step too far for Joss... (*SO* not surprised at his ex-wife's allegations.)

And so it goes. From the Weinsteins and the Trumps at the top, through the Whedons and the Gibsons right down to the guy on the bus who puts his hand on your knee.

Because all the Riley Finns in the world just laugh when their friends are crude.


Not because she's your sister, your mother, your daughter, your girlfriend. Because he is your brother, your father, your son, your friend.


(ETA: Much like white people need to tackle racism, and straight/cis people need to tackle LGBT+ bigotry.)

So, I have somehow collected a whole bunch of links again...

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Please enjoy two & a half decades of people asking HRC the same "question." "People hate you: please respond." https://t.co/AqlkUzPmfV

— Rebecca Traister (@rtraister) 4 August 2016