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So I have been collecting links
Mostly I've just been dumping them all in a draft in gmail named 'wimmin'. But I thought it was a shame that they should stay there, so here is the mother of all link posts. A lot about #MeToo and Aziz Ansari and... Just wimmin's stuff generally.
The female price of male pleasure
The old implied social bargain between women and men (which Andrew Sullivan calls "natural") is that one side will endure a great deal of discomfort and pain for the other's pleasure and delight. And we've all agreed to act like that's normal, and just how the world works.
Esp good as a reply to Andrew Sullivan's awful post.
(Sidebar: His post finally made me unsubscribe from getting notifications. Which made me sad, because I still remember The Dish with fondness. I never particularly agreed with *him*, but it was the best place to 'read the whole internet' in one place, and he always posted opposing views and comments, so it was nicely balanced. Now however, he's all on his own and his nasty traits are not being challenged. It's the obliviousness that gets to me the most, I think. I remember reading his piece on becoming an American citizen, and I had to stop. He was talking about how welcoming a place America was, and how quickly he'd risen through the ranks and become an editor, and nowhere else was that possible, except in America - and I wanted to reach through the screen and hit him over the head, yelling 'IT'S BECAUSE YOU ARE WHITE AND MALE YOU UTTER MORON! TRY BEING BLACK OR A WOMAN, AND SEE HOW FAR YOU WOULD'VE GOTTEN!' /end rant)
If You Loved Black Panther’s Dora Milaje, Meet the Dahomey Amazons
Some of the fiercest women warriors in history.
(I have not seen Black Panther yet, don't spoil me!)
ETA: Viola Davis, Lupita Nyong’o cast in true story behind Black Panther’s female warriors
Petition: All jurors in rape trials to complete compulsory training about rape myths
Research shows that jurors accept commonly held rape myths resulting in many incorrect not guilty verdicts. Rapists are walking free from court, although evidence is robust. This ruins lives. Rape conviction in the UK is very low. Compared to other crimes conviction is 21% lower.
Do 'dead' models live on in fashion magazines?
BBC video. A fashion photographer in LA asks why female models pose as dead bodies or sexual objects in magazines. (Deeply disturbing.)
From Twitter: Aaaand we have a live one!
10 Years Ago, the Internet Gave Us "Mansplain." Let Me, a Woman, Explain Why It Still Matters.
Twitter account: Guy in Your MFA (Run by a woman, natch. Amusingly similar to Emo Kylo Ren.)
The 100-year-old protest posters that show women's outrage
Why women seem to feel the cold more than men
Some Next Steps for Men Who are Now Realizing the Patriarchy is Indeed Real and Awful and Everywhere
All Hail The Financial Times For Holding A Mirror Up To Harassment And The Powerful Who Let It Happen
Hollywood's ideas about audiences are outdated. Wonder Woman's record-smashing debut proves it.
Why We Smile at Men Who Sexually Harass Us
The Aziz Ansari Story Highlights An Important Conversation About Consent
Aziz Ansari and the sad familiarity of the “bad date”
Mythcommunication: It’s Not That They Don’t Understand, They Just Don’t Like The Answer
"The Tale" Could Be The Most Important Movie Of The Year For The #MeToo Movement
The Tale, Jennifer Fox's autobiographical film about a woman reckoning with repressed sexual abuse, couldn't have come at a more potent time.
After Sharing Unwanted Texts From A Male Delivery Driver, Hundreds Of People Contacted This Woman With Their Own Experiences
Aziz, We Tried to Warn You
The notion of affirmative consent did not fall from space in October 2017 to confound well-meaning but bumbling men; it was built, loudly and painstakingly and in public, at great personal cost to its proponents, over decades. If you’re fretting about the perceived overreach of #MeToo, maybe start by examining the ways you’ve upheld the stigmatization of feminism. Nuanced conversations about consent and gendered socialization have been happening every single day that Aziz Ansari has spent as a living, sentient human on this earth. The reason they feel foreign to so many men is that so many men never felt like they needed to listen. Rape is a women’s issue, right? Men don’t major in women’s studies.
I’m a sexual consent educator. Here’s what’s missing in the Aziz Ansari conversation.
How demanding female sexual pleasure makes us all better at understanding consent.
I'm Tired of Male Screenwriters Using Rape as a Convenient Backstory for Women
Hijab shampoo advert: L'Oreal model on 'game-changing' ad
Why are women still fighting for their rights, 100 years after getting the vote?
Unrolled thread from @alexandraerin
Here's a thing: the people who are insistent that the sexual assaults being described by survivors are actually "just bad sex" seem pretty blase about the fact that (from their point of view) there's an epidemic of men giving sex so bad it leaves women traumatized and confused.
In The Midst Of #MeToo, What Type Of Man Do You Want To Be?
How #MeToo, Women, and People of Color Will Gain Visibility at Sundance 2018
They’re trying to address the big conversations happening in Hollywood right now.
Cat Person going viral shows how rare it is to explore women’s sex lives
The Angry, Amazing, and Heartbreaking Speeches from Yesterday’s Marches
I thought I was one of the good guys. Then I read the Aziz Ansari story.
She told me to stop. I ignored her. It took me years to realize how wrong I was.
In the 1920s, a Makeover Saved This Woman From the Death Penalty
Sabella Nitti was the first woman sentenced to death in Cook County, and she was innocent. And then she got a bob.
The Malignant Melancholy
There are, broadly, two kinds of structural lonelinesses. One is the benign loneliness of the socially alienated, the other the malignant melancholy of the erstwhile master
Twitter thread on mansplaining
Trolling a mansplainer
ETA:
The female price of male pleasure
The old implied social bargain between women and men (which Andrew Sullivan calls "natural") is that one side will endure a great deal of discomfort and pain for the other's pleasure and delight. And we've all agreed to act like that's normal, and just how the world works.
Esp good as a reply to Andrew Sullivan's awful post.
(Sidebar: His post finally made me unsubscribe from getting notifications. Which made me sad, because I still remember The Dish with fondness. I never particularly agreed with *him*, but it was the best place to 'read the whole internet' in one place, and he always posted opposing views and comments, so it was nicely balanced. Now however, he's all on his own and his nasty traits are not being challenged. It's the obliviousness that gets to me the most, I think. I remember reading his piece on becoming an American citizen, and I had to stop. He was talking about how welcoming a place America was, and how quickly he'd risen through the ranks and become an editor, and nowhere else was that possible, except in America - and I wanted to reach through the screen and hit him over the head, yelling 'IT'S BECAUSE YOU ARE WHITE AND MALE YOU UTTER MORON! TRY BEING BLACK OR A WOMAN, AND SEE HOW FAR YOU WOULD'VE GOTTEN!' /end rant)
If You Loved Black Panther’s Dora Milaje, Meet the Dahomey Amazons
Some of the fiercest women warriors in history.
(I have not seen Black Panther yet, don't spoil me!)
ETA: Viola Davis, Lupita Nyong’o cast in true story behind Black Panther’s female warriors
Petition: All jurors in rape trials to complete compulsory training about rape myths
Research shows that jurors accept commonly held rape myths resulting in many incorrect not guilty verdicts. Rapists are walking free from court, although evidence is robust. This ruins lives. Rape conviction in the UK is very low. Compared to other crimes conviction is 21% lower.
Do 'dead' models live on in fashion magazines?
BBC video. A fashion photographer in LA asks why female models pose as dead bodies or sexual objects in magazines. (Deeply disturbing.)
From Twitter: Aaaand we have a live one!
10 Years Ago, the Internet Gave Us "Mansplain." Let Me, a Woman, Explain Why It Still Matters.
Twitter account: Guy in Your MFA (Run by a woman, natch. Amusingly similar to Emo Kylo Ren.)
The 100-year-old protest posters that show women's outrage
Why women seem to feel the cold more than men
Some Next Steps for Men Who are Now Realizing the Patriarchy is Indeed Real and Awful and Everywhere
All Hail The Financial Times For Holding A Mirror Up To Harassment And The Powerful Who Let It Happen
Hollywood's ideas about audiences are outdated. Wonder Woman's record-smashing debut proves it.
Why We Smile at Men Who Sexually Harass Us
The Aziz Ansari Story Highlights An Important Conversation About Consent
Aziz Ansari and the sad familiarity of the “bad date”
Mythcommunication: It’s Not That They Don’t Understand, They Just Don’t Like The Answer
"The Tale" Could Be The Most Important Movie Of The Year For The #MeToo Movement
The Tale, Jennifer Fox's autobiographical film about a woman reckoning with repressed sexual abuse, couldn't have come at a more potent time.
After Sharing Unwanted Texts From A Male Delivery Driver, Hundreds Of People Contacted This Woman With Their Own Experiences
Aziz, We Tried to Warn You
The notion of affirmative consent did not fall from space in October 2017 to confound well-meaning but bumbling men; it was built, loudly and painstakingly and in public, at great personal cost to its proponents, over decades. If you’re fretting about the perceived overreach of #MeToo, maybe start by examining the ways you’ve upheld the stigmatization of feminism. Nuanced conversations about consent and gendered socialization have been happening every single day that Aziz Ansari has spent as a living, sentient human on this earth. The reason they feel foreign to so many men is that so many men never felt like they needed to listen. Rape is a women’s issue, right? Men don’t major in women’s studies.
I’m a sexual consent educator. Here’s what’s missing in the Aziz Ansari conversation.
How demanding female sexual pleasure makes us all better at understanding consent.
I'm Tired of Male Screenwriters Using Rape as a Convenient Backstory for Women
Hijab shampoo advert: L'Oreal model on 'game-changing' ad
Why are women still fighting for their rights, 100 years after getting the vote?
Unrolled thread from @alexandraerin
Here's a thing: the people who are insistent that the sexual assaults being described by survivors are actually "just bad sex" seem pretty blase about the fact that (from their point of view) there's an epidemic of men giving sex so bad it leaves women traumatized and confused.
In The Midst Of #MeToo, What Type Of Man Do You Want To Be?
How #MeToo, Women, and People of Color Will Gain Visibility at Sundance 2018
They’re trying to address the big conversations happening in Hollywood right now.
Cat Person going viral shows how rare it is to explore women’s sex lives
The Angry, Amazing, and Heartbreaking Speeches from Yesterday’s Marches
I thought I was one of the good guys. Then I read the Aziz Ansari story.
She told me to stop. I ignored her. It took me years to realize how wrong I was.
In the 1920s, a Makeover Saved This Woman From the Death Penalty
Sabella Nitti was the first woman sentenced to death in Cook County, and she was innocent. And then she got a bob.
The Malignant Melancholy
There are, broadly, two kinds of structural lonelinesses. One is the benign loneliness of the socially alienated, the other the malignant melancholy of the erstwhile master
Twitter thread on mansplaining
Trolling a mansplainer
ETA:
With one week left in our campaign, every pledge helps. We need to raise the whole $20,000 or everything we did raise is lost. Will you get out your credit card? Let's end #domesticviolence homicide → https://t.co/G40WPsMyNl pic.twitter.com/LlFI21JbZb
— Jeanne Geiger Ctr (@JeanneGeigerCtr) March 2, 2018
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Also Lupita & Danai Gurira are making a miniseries based off of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s ‘Americanah’.
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