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Burn down the patriarchy
So, we went to see Barbie! We were dressed as pink as possible and it was awesome. Possibly more thoughts later.
However I have been waiting for a good moment to post a link to this thread (in my head I refer to it as 'the Thread of Threads'), and this seems the perfect tie-in:
Metafilter: “Where’s My Cut?”: On Unpaid Emotional Labor
Housework is not work. Sex work is not work. Emotional work is not work. Why? Because they don’t take effort? No, because women are supposed to provide them uncompensated, out of the goodness of our hearts.
We are told frequently that women are more intuitive, more empathetic, more innately willing and able to offer succor and advice. How convenient that this cultural construct gives men an excuse to be emotionally lazy. How convenient that it casts feelings-based work as "an internal need, an aspiration, supposedly coming from the depths of our female character."
Read the linked article first (it is quite short) and then you have an almost endless discussion to delve into. I have been reading for almost two weeks and I am still not done (it's 2058 comments long). It will make you angry and amazed and determined and might change how you see the world.
ETA: The article/thread is from 2015. Now we have a song! (With thanks to Promethia <3)
The lyrics are AMAZING: "I know you're a smart man and weaponise the false incompetence--It's dominance under guise."
However I have been waiting for a good moment to post a link to this thread (in my head I refer to it as 'the Thread of Threads'), and this seems the perfect tie-in:
Metafilter: “Where’s My Cut?”: On Unpaid Emotional Labor
Housework is not work. Sex work is not work. Emotional work is not work. Why? Because they don’t take effort? No, because women are supposed to provide them uncompensated, out of the goodness of our hearts.
We are told frequently that women are more intuitive, more empathetic, more innately willing and able to offer succor and advice. How convenient that this cultural construct gives men an excuse to be emotionally lazy. How convenient that it casts feelings-based work as "an internal need, an aspiration, supposedly coming from the depths of our female character."
Read the linked article first (it is quite short) and then you have an almost endless discussion to delve into. I have been reading for almost two weeks and I am still not done (it's 2058 comments long). It will make you angry and amazed and determined and might change how you see the world.
ETA: The article/thread is from 2015. Now we have a song! (With thanks to Promethia <3)
The lyrics are AMAZING: "I know you're a smart man and weaponise the false incompetence--It's dominance under guise."
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You can make a decent income keeping somebody's calendar for them, making the appointments, and ensuring they get flowers for their wife on their anniversary - but if you're married to them instead of employed by them, then all of a sudden it's nothing.
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Exactly. You're just handed the itinerary and told to get on with it... (NotAllMen of course)