Oh, wow. Definitely. Never quite got that in those words, that makes so much sense.
*beams* I felt terribly clever when I first thought of it. I love it when something suddenly clicks.

it's not about wanting to help her so much as wanting her to be vulnerable with him.
*nods* The correct response to a situation like that is 'What can I do?' (which is pretty much what Spike says) - you don't dictate what kind of help you're going to offer/what other people need. (Riley doesn't understand the difference, I don't think.)