The thread is alllllll about that. (And more. But so much about this.)

And yes the 'I'm helping' or 'Just tell me what to do' - they talk about who 'owns' the task, and even if you delegate *you* are the person who has to keep tabs on it. The difference (as someone put it) between moving house and helping out by carrying boxes.

(Have you seen Barbie yet?)