I'd still dump him, but I'd like to think I'd get that the issue is as much about his own struggle to embrace his identity/that relationship as it is about me).
This. There was another one (I think - there were a few I might get them mixed up), where they were VERY VERY close and had now moved apart (due to work etc) and knew they could never pursue it any further because their circle would just never accept it. How awful is that?